Disappointed In My Mentor

Reader Submission

I’ve wanted to write this and send this to you for sometime now.  Recently things have gotten so out of control, I have no choice, but to write this all down and vent.  Anonymously, of course.

When I was a brand, new nail tech, I found a mentor online.  She lived hours from me, but she was willing to help me online.  She guided me in the beginning of my career and for that I am forever grateful. 

Through the years, I progressed in my career and my skills.  My mentor did not.  It came to a point where I surpassed her.  I am not being conceited.  It’s a fact and one that is noticed by others.  I have tried to pass on to her, what I’ve learned.  She is older.  She is stubborn and I am finally able to admit this to myself, she is jealous.

She has recently been very horrible to me, not directly, but I am not stupid.  She has talked behind my back to people who are mutual friends.  These friends have shared with me the things she is saying about me.  Things that are totally not true.  She is saying these things to get people to not like me to make herself look superior.  What is interesting, is that instead of that happening, these people are true friends to me and are telling me what she is doing and what she is saying.

I can’t tell you how disappointed this makes me.  This is someone who I looked up to.  Someone who I admired.  Now, she is someone that I pity.

I pity her because she can’t see how mean and hateful she is being.  I pity her because she can’t see what a hypocrite she is when she puts down others for being mean and being bullies, yet she is one and the same.  I pity her because she can’t see that she is stuck in the past and she needs to move into the future, yet she is too stubborn to do so.  I pity her because instead of taking offers to help or take suggestions from others, she has to discount every single thing that others say.  She has to one up others constantly.

I will take this as my final lesson from my mentor.  This is a lesson of what NOT to be.  I will never be a person that is jealous of someone that I helped, just because they turned out to exceed me in skills.

Sincerely,

Disappointed in my Mentor